And so, here we are, the blessed month of #Ramadan is finally upon us 🙏🌙
From our family, the #OpenIftar team, to you and yours 🌍
And so, here we are, the blessed month of #Ramadan is finally upon us 🙏🌙
From our family, the #OpenIftar team, to you and yours 🌍
As Allah SWT says, “It is God who brought you out of your mothers’ wombs knowing nothing, and gave you hearing and sight and minds, so that you might be thankful” – Holy Qur’an 16:78
Following the recent acid attacks on our fellow brothers and sisters, the Grenfell Tower Fire and the spike in anti-Muslim hate crimes, Islamophobia and terrorist attacks against the Muslim community, it is important for us to be aware, vigilant, unified, look out for each other & pay attention to our surroundings.
Furthermore, it is incumbent upon us to follow the advice and the sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him. Our beloved Rasool was not only a man of faith and a messenger but was also a fair, modest and calm leader who spoke with wisdom, firm conviction and reliance upon Allah. In these tough times, it may well feel like there isn’t anyone to turn to and our only option is to live in constant fear from walking out of our homes and going to work and our children going to schools. Do not be afraid, for indeed Allah is with us. Allah is the controller of all affairs, He is the sustainer, the Protector, the All-Loving. Our community must stand united and stay true to our high standards of Islam and repel evil with good.
We must continue to speak out against all injustices and speak truth to power, through humility, patience and firm conviction in Allah’s will. We must support our brothers and sisters emotionally and mentally. Be ready to speak to them and nurture a space for healing and confidence building in their unique and wonderful abilities. We only have each other to turn to besides Allah when times are difficult and our faith is only completed through the service of assisting and aiding one another. For the one most beloved to Allah, is the one who is most beneficial to others.
We should also aim to protect ourselves from harm and evil and learn and recite the following dua. As the Prophet PBUH said:
“There is no person who says, in the morning and evening of every day: (بِسْمِ اللَّهِ) In the name of Allah (الَّذِي لاَ يَضُرُّ مَعَ اسْمِهِ شَىْءٌ فِي الأَرْضِ وَلاَ فِي السَّمَاءِ) with Whose Name nothing on earth or in heaven harms (وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ) and He is the All-Hearing the All-Knowing (ثَلاَثَ مَرَّاتٍ) 3 times (فَيَضُرَّهُ شَىْءٌ) and is then harmed by anything.”
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي لاَ يَضُرُّ مَعَ اسْمِهِ شَىْءٌ فِي الأَرْضِ وَلاَ فِي السَّمَاءِ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ
Walaykum al Salam,
The heartbreaking tragedy at Grenfell saw many lives lost, many losing all that they have. May God have mercy upon the residents of Grenfell Tower and provide them with peace, strength, ease, and comfort, during these devastating times, ameen. May those who have passed rest is peace, in power, ameen.
The scenes of helpfulness and kindness were overwhelming, from Churches to Mosques, who opened their doors to all, and people traveling from all over London, and the UK, to offer their help and donations. We pray that the efforts and intentions of all those who helped and have supported, are rewarded and sustained; may God provide us all with the strength and ability to do more, to help and provide support wherever we are able, ameen.
Abdullah ibn Amr reported: The Prophet SAW said, ‘Those who are merciful will be shown mercy by the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One in the heavens will have mercy upon you.’ [Tiirmidhi]
As someone who has more friends that are non-Muslim, than Muslim – I have been surrounded by many different reactions and opinions to the fact I am a practising Muslim. I am blessed, that my closest friends are the most supportive, accepting and positive people, which with Islamophobia on the rise, has given this fact more value than it normally should. While they understand how important my faith is to me, I was so surprised when I learnt one of them held a deep respect and appreciation for Islam, that went beyond the usual tolerance and acceptance I was used to.
Chylo Douglas–Forbes , affectionately known to me as ‘Doc’, is of Caribbean Descent and was raised by her father in south London. I remember talking to her about Islam once just casually, and being surprised by her response; I distinctively remember her saying ‘Islam is such a beautiful religion’. I was so amazed that she held this opinion despite being non-Muslim. Her reaction went beyond any understanding my other friends had displayed; I was intrigued as to what lead her to this understanding. She then went on to tell me that it was because of her father, Martin, and his love and high regard for the religion, despite being Christian himself; ‘Hmmm, for as long as I can remember we’ve had a Qur’an on our bookshelf. Well, actually on top of our bookshelf, as It’s meant to be right at the top or something? Anyways yeah, so we’ve always had that, and I remember having to wash my hand before touching it or opening it. Even before meals he says ‘Bismillah’. I was always raised to give thanks before eating or going to sleep, so always thought Bismillah was a lazy cop out, but I bet you he’s secretly Muslim’.
I was beyond fascinated at this point; how is it that despite being non-Muslim, this man held Islam in such regard that he had a Qur’an in his house, Calligraphy of Bismillah proudly displayed on his wall, and even said Bismillah before every meal? To me this was amazing, and I knew I had to talk to him to find out more.
And, so after meeting up with Chylo in Tooting and buying biriyani, and three different types of naan from Lahore Karahi, I found myself on the way to her dad’s house to interview him. Now, it is important to note that I went in to this interview with Martin under the same assumption as his daughter: that he was a practising Christian who simply held Islam in high regard. What I discovered, however, shifted the whole course of the interview, and it became so much more than I was expecting it to.
After lots of laughter and several attempts to get serious, Martin sits down in an armchair in front me, and his daughter Chylo sits beside me, as we finally start the interview.
Do you consider yourself religious, and if so what faith do you follow?
Martin: I don’t know, I don’t know you’d have to be more specific. I don’t go to church or anything like that. I believe there’s a God.
You believe there’s a God? Do you follow a particular religion?
M: No, I do not.
C: Not Christianity?
M: I don’t follow Christianity, where’s my Bible? Where’s my church?
C: That’s what I thought
Do you mind elaborating a bit more – so you believe there is a God?
M: I believe we’re created. I don’t believe in Darwinism, that we come from apes and all that. But, you know, maybe that idea has got some of its own strengths, but I believe in God. Those apes had to be created by something.
Would you say that you believed in one God then?
M: Yeah, yeah. There’s more than one religion, so God will have many names, but there’s just the one.
That’s really interesting
M: It’s the truth, isn’t it? I might say this in my language, you might say the same thing in your language, it seemingly becomes two different things.
C: Even in the Quran and the Bible, they have the same people, but with different names.
How were you first introduced to Islam?
M: Don’t know (Chylo laughs) I don’t know, I’ve known about Islam from a long time ago, when I was a young guy. But the younger you are, the easier it is for it fly over your head, you can ignore it.
So was it from family, from around friends?
M: Probably friends or something, probably something like (Louis) Farrakhan, or a rap video in which they mentioned something about the Nation of Islam. That was probably my introduction to it, I listened to a lot of rap music, and a lot of the rappers have moved towards it.
What were your first impressions of Islam?
M: My first impression was it’s not for us, it’s not in our language. That was my first impression, that it wasn’t for me. I don’t understand. The writing, it’s nice to look at, but it’s not of my people, I don’t know these people, they’re not speaking my language. When they’re calling to prayer, they’re not calling me because I couldn’t possibly know what they’re saying.
How do you feel about Islam now?
M: It’s for me; they’re my people – I like it. I don’t look at it as religion, I look at it as a way of life, if you want to live good, to live clean. It’s not about ‘follow us or you’re going to burn, follow us or you’re going to die’. Only God will judge me for what I am; it’s about what’s in your heart – it’s your heart that matters.
I remember someone once saying that when you see your brothers going in a certain direction, follow them. Basically, if you see people that you like, your favourite rappers, your friends, your elders, when you see them going to Islam – follow them.
How do you know so much about Islam?
M: I’ve got Muslim friends. Also, I work in a primary school and a big percentage of them are Muslim. And, if you like something, you ask, you enquire about it, that’s how you come to know. If you’re not interested in something, you don’t ask about it, you don’t look into it. You know, when people talk about it, you close your ears. If you’re interested you look, you listen, you ask and you learn.
So what is it about Islam in particular that draws you to it, that interests you so much?
M: When I look at Christianity, they show me a white man on cross in a country in which all the people have a tan, (Chylo laughs loudly) come on, now. I just think: ‘come on, why you telling me that? Why you trying to pull me to that?’ When I see Islam, I see different people of colour, permanent tan, original language, untampered.
C: There’s actually a lot of talk relating to why so many Caribbean, African people are converting to Islam. It may be that during slavery, it’s something slave owners told them, to keep them in fear, to not rebel against them.
M: What, Christianity?
M: There’s a joke that if there was a heaven they wouldn’t tell us about it, because they wouldn’t want us there.
C: That’s why loads of people I know are converting.
So you’ve talked about how you feel it’s more inclusive to other races, is there anything else that draws you to it?
M: I like the way of life, I think it’s a good way of life. You know, Christians go to church on Sunday, they may pray when they’re eating, for example, but, in Islam, you’re praying a lot more; you’re keeping God closer to yourself. You know men and women pray separate, so your mind is on God, it’s not on ‘oh that lady in front of me she looks alright’…you know, things like that. It’s well thought out, it’s a way of life. When we’re living in these kinds of times, you need something, do you know what I mean?
That said, I’m going through life like a soldier, I’m not tied to one God, or one religion. I’ve got a sister in one church, a brother in another church, my dad goes to another church, nephews practising Islam and I’ve have friends that are Sikh. So, I’ve been everywhere, Gurdwaras mosque and churches, and I’ve gone there as myself. I don’t go there as a Christian in a Gurdwara, in a mosque, I go there as myself. When you invite me, I come; you say cover your head, I cover my head. You say don’t eat meat when you come here, I won’t eat meat. You say don’t smoke when you come here, you say take off your shoes, I’ll do that. Cause’ when I’m going, I’m going as myself.
Have you ever considered converting?
M: I consider it all the time; I consider it all the time. I think about it all the time.
What prevents you from doing so?
M: I’m not committed, it’s just commitment – I don’t know. I think about it all the time. There are children in my school that ask me: ‘When are you taking your shahada? Are you Muslim? Have you taken your shahada?’ I tell them no, I haven’t.
C: I’m pretty sure it doesn’t, and I already kind of know the answer, but do you think the way Muslims are portrayed especially recently…
M: Don’t affect me, don’t affect me.
C : (Laughs) Yeah, but you can see the difference now…
M: Don’t affect me. Back in the day, when I was growing up with yardies – if you’re Jamaican and you’re bad, you’re supposedly a yardie – all Jamaicans were supposed to be bad men. Jamaica wasn’t/isn’t full of bad people, Jamaica has lovely people. But there’s a percentage of them that are wicked, and they give all a bad name. It’s the same with everything. There’s always someone trying to spoil it, trying to spoil your name.
This interview lasted approximately five hours – I stopped recording after three. It evolved more in to a discussion and debate between all three of us, I couldn’t help myself from joining in. Martin was so fascinating to talk to, and the views he holds are so interesting. What you are reading here is a mere eleven minutes of the entire three hours – that is how rich the conversation was.
I feel I learnt a great deal from this interview, but the main thing I learnt about Martin, is that he is extremely compassionate, empathetic and tolerant. He also seeks to spread these values in everything he does. It was quite touching to learn he makes an effort to learn a few phrases in languages his pupils speak, so he can greet them in that language and make them feel comfortable. He tells me he always tries to see everything through a positive lens, so even if he does experience any negativity it goes unnoticed to him. Whether he decides to revert to Islam or not, it is beautiful to see how deep his understanding of Islam goes and that he has passed that down to Chylo.
I think we could all learn a little from Martin. In fact, the world could do with a few more people like my dear friends Martin and Chylo.
I know, this probably seems like one of those “how to be productive” articles that somehow pop up every year during Ramadan. However, as cliche as it sounds, the holy month is about more than just fasting. It is a time to reflect on our weaknesses and plan our time efficiently. With this in mind, I’ve compiled a short guide to improve productivity, while remaining realistic.
1. Talk to people, and actually listen.
Learn about Ramadan through conversation! If you want to know something specific, why not ask someone you trust? This works both ways! If you have information to share, start a conversation. It’s important to encourage dialogue among friends, family and even acquaintances. Learning is much more than reading a book. We learn buckets from each other! And I’ve found often the deepest conversations are with friends from different [religious] backgrounds. Let’s move out of our comfort zones, and dare to ask questions: What is spirituality? What is religion? Who is God to you?
2. Watch videos, but be selective.
We’re so often told that the internet is the enemy of productivity. Most productivity guides tell readers to avoid YouTube, stay off their phones and log off Facebook. But, is that the way of the future? We are lucky to have such easy access to our favourite imams and scholars, all from the comfort of our homes. From in depth and accessible tafseer videos by Nouman Ali Khan, to stories about the life of Prophet Muhammed (PBUH), social media can be a great tool if used correctly.
3. Simply be with people.
As a time often associated with family gatherings, laughter and traditional food, experiencing Ramadan alone can be incredibly alienating. So why not look out for those who may be alone this month? You could invite friends to the masjid, volunteer at a local charity, or even invite them to attend our Open Iftar one evening. Having a friend who encourages you to be productive, makes the experience easier and less daunting.
4. Don’t be put off by the long hours. It’s about you!
The long fasting hours mean two things:
So, it’s important to keep a balance between spirituality and our own well-being. Remember Ramadan isn’t a competition based on who can give the most money, or how much Qur’an you can read and how quickly. Ramadan is both very personal, and about being part of a community; while everyone’s journey is different, we all have the role of encouraging each other.
Hopefully, following these steps will help us use our time more wisely. From reflecting on our spiritually, to picking up good habits, intention is what will make Ramadan a blessed and beautiful month – inshaAllah.
“Get to know the greatest surah of the entire Quran! An appreciation of Surah Al-Fatihah is something that has to be refreshed and renewed.” Quoted from Nouman Ali Khan Quran weekly video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_8I6BZQED7E.
We kept saying that ramadan is the month of the Quran. Let’s meditate about the values of the Fatihah, this surah that we always use in our prayer. Let’s tighten the link between us and this surah. Which better moment do it if it’s not during Ramadan?
Here is some interesting elements that speaks about the Fatihah to meditate:
Sahih Muslim records on the authority of Abu Hurayrah (R) who said that the Messenger of Allah (SWS) said,
Allah, the Glorious and Exalted said, “I have divided the prayer between Myself and my servant equally and My servant shall be granted what he asked for.” Therefore, when the servant says, ‘All praises and thanks are due to Allah, the Lord of the worlds’, Allah says, ‘My servant has praised Me.’ When he says,’The All-Merciful, the Most Merciful,’Allah says, ‘My servant has extolled Me.’ When he says, ‘Master of the Day of Judgment,’ Allah says, ‘My servant has glorified Me.’ When he says, ‘You Alone we worship and Your aid Alone do we seek,’ Allah says, ‘this is between Me and My servant and My servant shall have what he requested.’ When he says, ‘Guide us to the Straight Path, the Path of those whom You have favored, not [the path] of those who have earned [Your] anger, nor of those who have gone astray,’ Allah says, ‘this is for My servant and My servant shall have what he asked for.’
Ahmad records on the authority of Abu Hurayrah (r) who said (in part of the hadith) that “The Prophet (SWS) called Ubayy ibn Ka’b and told him that:
“Ubayy said, ‘Then he took hold of my hand and talked to me while I slowed down fearing that we may reach the door before he finished talking. When we did reach it I asked him, ‘What is the Surah you promised me, O Messenger of Allah?’ He said, “What is the Surah you recite in prayer?” So I recited the Mother of the Quran upon which he said, ‘By the One in Whose Hand is my soul, Allah has not revealed the likes of it in the Torah, Injil, Zabur or the [rest of the] Quran. It is the Seven Oft- Repeated verses.’ “